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 ONES emphasize being correct, organized, and sensible. They focus on standards, improving themselves, and knowing the rules.  Manage Feelings - by repression and denial. Feelings are channeled into activity, getting things done perfectly. Feelings also held as physical rigidity in the body. Ones want to work with the system. They try to be a “good boy or girl,” and are irritated with people who disregard the rules

 

• TWOS emphasize Positive self-image. “I am a caring, loving person.” They focus on their good intentions..  TWOS avoid seeing their own neediness, disappointment, and anger. Twos overemphasize the needs of others, and neglect their own needs.  Two's fear being unwanted and unworthy of being loved

 

• THREES emphasize being efficient, capable, and outstanding. They focus on goals, being pragmatic, and knowing how to present self. Threes manage feelings by repression and keeping attention on tasks, staying active. Achievement offsets painful feelings. Threes look to others for feeling cues.

 

• FOURS seek a rescuer, someone to understand them and support their life and dreams; Fours want to be seen.  Fours fear abandonment—that no one will care for them; that they will not have enough support to find and become themselves. Fours deal with others by keeping others interested by limiting access, playing “hard to get,” and holding onto supporters.

 

• FIVES  - Emphasize being the expert and having deep information. They focus on the process, objective facts, and on maintaining clarity and detachment. Fives manage feelings by splitting off and abstracting feelings, Fives stay preoccupied and cerebral, as if their feelings were happening to someone else. Fives reject the system and want to work on their own, outside of it. They have little patience with rules or procedures.

• SIXES – Seek both independence and support. Sixes want someone to rely on, but also needs to be “the strong one.”  Sixes fear being abandoned and without support, but also fears becoming too dependent on others.  Sixes deal with others by being committed and reliable while trying to maintain their independence; they are engaging, but also defended. Sixes want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity

 

• SEVEN emphasize positive experiences, enjoyment, activity, excitement and fun. Sevens avoid their pain and emptiness: their role in creating suffering for self and others. Sevens overemphasize their own needs, and easily feel burdened by the needs of others. Sevens keep their minds occupied with exciting possibilities and options— as long as they have something stimulating to anticipate, Sevens feel that they can distract themselves from their fears.

 

• EIGHT emphasize Independence and self-reliance. Eights want to need others as little as possible, to be their own person.  Eights fear being controlled or dominated by others.  Thus, they fear intimacy and becoming vulnerable by trusting or caring too much. Eights believe that being true to them self means that you say what you mean and mean what you say.  Eights need to predict your intentions.  Want everything in the open.  Eights relate to others by keeping their guard up, not letting others get too close, and toughening themselves against hurt and their need for others.

 

• NINE – emphasize the positive qualities of others and of their environment. They idealize their world.  Nine’s avoid seeing problems with their loved ones or their environment as well as lack of their own development. Nines have problems with needs and can feel overwhelmed by their own needs and needs of others. They do not want to deal with either.  Nines want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent and emotionally distant, simplifying problems and ignoring anything upsetting. They typically have problems with stubbornness.

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